"Grief is not a disorder, a disease or a sign of weakness. It is an emotional, physical and spiritual necessity, the price you pay for love. The only cure for grief is to grieve."
Losing Our Life-Partner
For many elderly couples it seems truly inconceivable to bear life without the other.
For many, losing their partner strands them in a helpless quagmire of loneliness, enmeshed in a place without purpose.
Daily life can become a struggle: eating seems pointless, trying to sleep can become a kind of torture, chores feel insurmountable....
Loneliness & Depression
The endless ache, the fear, the helpless anger, being utterly disempowered; all these terrible feelings that grief drags us through often lead to the kind of depression that pushes people into a state of apathy.
I am here to help someone ride through the challenges and difficulty of learning to cope with being on their own.
There is nothing more important than being on hand to provide tempting nourishing snacks and meals, to make sure they are actually eating, to provide the comfort of sharing a meal - to not have to feel the unfathomable ache of eating alone.
I'm here to help make sure the household is running well,
and most importantly, being here to make sure the Elder is able to get out of the house, for errands, for coffee, to visit with friends and family, for a drive to a beautiful place on a sunny day, for a trip to the library when it rains...
Stemming the Awfulness
I am able to bring all of my professional experience to helping support Elders through the deep debilitation that can accompany the grieving process.
Being in company with someone who understands the grieving process - who is able to allow them all the space such grieving requires, and creates space for being in gentle companionship that does not tax their reserves - can be a tremendous support.
My goal is to help stem the awfulness, with empathy and kindness, to support them as they learn to adjust to their loss.
For 25 years I have specialised in working with high risk pregnancies, working with countless couples who have lost pre-term, full term (stillbirth) and newborn babies.
Over the years, I have done many bereavement courses, both through my Doula training, and with Child Bereavement UK, a charity dedicated to supporting children who have lost a parent.
I trained with Sheila Kitzinger and spent 15 years as volunteer for the Birth Crisis Helpline, helping many thousands of people resonate their grief.
Through the tragedy of my own family's loss I chose a career steeped in supporting grieving parents.
Bereavement was denied in our family, thus I have built a career that specialises in providing bereavement support to help people to process their loss.